tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post8901507003312735203..comments2023-10-25T03:55:34.566-07:00Comments on Love Street: On Mating and RelatingLesliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06210056029582203814noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-7786524159009422312009-05-01T22:14:00.000-07:002009-05-01T22:14:00.000-07:00Digging the post.
I did have a list, but it was m...Digging the post.<br /><br />I did have a list, but it was more a list of things learned. I think on the list was stuff like "must treat mother nicely" and that got added after dating a guy who called his mom some terrible stuff. If that makes any sense. I had the list framed and in a spot I saw a lot. It was a reminder to myself not to settle. Maybe I'll dig out my last list and post it. I bet it's interesting.JennBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08746617841614839272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-92033780199716178792009-04-29T20:03:00.000-07:002009-04-29T20:03:00.000-07:00I posted about love on my blog in a response to yo...I posted about love on my blog in a response to your post! Thanks for the thought provoking blog!!!Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17220982913705392211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-83247993871103862732009-04-28T11:22:00.000-07:002009-04-28T11:22:00.000-07:00Really like this post, fwend. Really thoughtful an...Really like this post, fwend. Really thoughtful and thought provoking. I actually had made a similar list once. If I can find it, I will share it with you.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13080232548763168558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-9807678850628841742009-04-27T19:46:00.000-07:002009-04-27T19:46:00.000-07:00I really enjoyed this post. I agree with so much ...I really enjoyed this post. I agree with so much of what you said about what truly is or isn't needed in a relationship.<br /><br />To answer your question about lists, it's funny how things work out. I'm horrible at journaling, I probably have 10 started diaries amounting to, at most, 50 entries. :-) However, one of them from when I was 12 listed ten qualities or things I wanted in a guy. One was superficial (at least 6'4") but the other 9 were having a Monty Python humor, things like that. First on my list was being Christian.<br /><br />I was so focused on that aspect, I ended up dating many guys who were Christian in that they professed to be one and went to church but were so not Christian, it wasn't funny. I finally came to a point where I took that list and honestly asked myself what it was about those things that I wanted. What were the actions and reactions that would make me glad I chose a Christian or MP humorist?<br /><br />I ended up finding the perfect-for-me guy. He doesn't profess to be Christian but is more Christ-like than most of the Christians I know. Same with other things on the list, he embodies what they meant to my 12 year old self even if you can't affix the label. And, yes, he's even 6'4". I ended up with what people told me I would never find, my 10 item list.<br /><br />Of course, that was the end result of trial and error and knowing how to be my own person. I wouldn't change the list or the journey for the world.Joynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-22937817201701687582009-04-27T17:52:00.000-07:002009-04-27T17:52:00.000-07:00I never made a list, but I knew there were things ...I never made a list, but I knew there were things that would be definite deal breakers. I need open communication and honesty.<br /><br />I agree though that you can not expect someone else to meet ever single emotional need you have. That is one hell of an expectation, and what good are to someone if you can not meet some of those needs on your own?Angie Eats Peacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00966149953616277141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-81985776388738877692009-04-27T17:29:00.000-07:002009-04-27T17:29:00.000-07:00Interesting. I'll have to think on this and get ba...Interesting. I'll have to think on this and get back to you... i might even end up with a post about it.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17220982913705392211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-33718401465847756702009-04-27T17:13:00.000-07:002009-04-27T17:13:00.000-07:00I think there are many things that make our relati...I think there are many things that make our relationship work, but the most important is that we are always on each other's side. It's so, so important.inflammatory writhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12923322007776358065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-69125205419496378022009-04-27T16:42:00.000-07:002009-04-27T16:42:00.000-07:00As I'm fond of tell EVERYONE, I had to dig through...As I'm fond of tell EVERYONE, I had to dig through a lot of dirt before I got to the treasure.<br /><br />Chronically single, very down on myself, had relationships w/ men in my head, and similar to you, Leslie, dated emotional unavailable men and then having my heart broken in 1000 pieces.<br /><br />I moved back to my home town in upstate NY and placed an ad on craigslist. Chris asked me out twice before I went out w/ him. I refused 'cause he had tatoos and he liked heavy metal and Stephen King. I thought "ewwwww what a loser!" And then I finally agreed to go out w/ him. And I realized all that surface bullshit stuff doesn't mean a damn thing. And I breathed. And he doesn't fit into some weird qualification list I kept embedded in my brain. He doesn't let me get out of stuff 'cause I'm lazy and he challenges me. And I'm crazy about him and I plan on marrying him. And as you said a few months ago "I want to bottle this feeling."phairheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13613553152292506932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064423391902022487.post-80921216841420201282009-04-27T16:28:00.000-07:002009-04-27T16:28:00.000-07:00Hmm very interesting. I never made a list per se, ...Hmm very interesting. I never made a list per se, but I knew what I wanted. I wanted someone that would complement me and keep me grounded. Definitely some who didn't take themselves too seriously and that made me laugh. And, importantly, someone I could see being a great dad.Beckihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09570646938970147765noreply@blogger.com