December 30, 2009

Congratulations are in order...

My blogger/Facebook buddy Sue just got engaged! Wewtsies! Congratulations, Sue! I know you and SexyBeast will be very happy together.

And now I'm going to steal Sue's thunder (sorry 'bout that) because I'm gonna get all nostalgic on you guys.

I loved planning my wedding. Yes, it was a complete and total pain in the ass at times, and I really had issues with several things that happened, but at the end of it all, I had the wedding I wanted and the husband that I wanted.

My wedding taught me who my real friends are, and I had the pleasure of meeting some mighty fine women on The Knot, many of whom I still count as my friends today.

And family. I really didn't understand the importance of family until Roy and I were preparing to form our own little one. (I actually think that marriage makes a family and kids just add to it.)

There were a lot of things that I didn't understand until I got married. Making that commitment has changed me. I'm not the same girl who cried over how stupid her florists were.

Oh wait. Yes, I am. I most certainly would cry this very night if I had to deal with what Leslie the Bride had to.

But seriously, it was one of the most wonderful days of my life, and yet I don't think about it much anymore.

Because it's only a day. And once the wedding's over, you leave that princess dress behind and go about being a life partner to your spouse. There's dirty dishes and smelly cat boxes and trash that needs to be taken out. Not to mention getting to work on time. And trying to understand each other even when you really, really don't. And once you add a kid to the mix, forget it. It becomes even harder to be able to connect with the person you married.

But you know what?

I love my husband even more today than I did on our wedding day. I'd marry him again in a heartbeat. And actually, every day, just by being his wife and being present in our relationship, I am marrying him again and again.

And Sue, on this occasion of your engagement, that's what I wish for you, that you are marrying the man that you would marry over and over again. Congratulations, woman!


phairhead said...

awwwww thank you!!!!

and yr not stealing my thunder, girl :D

Angie Eats Peace said...

Very sweet post!

Congrats, to Sue!

alyssa said...

I imagine having gone through child birth only brings you closer to your spouse. Congrats to your friend!!!

amber said...

Congrats to Sue! As usual, I'm with you on your thoughts about a wedding vs. a marriage. I loved our wedding and wouldn't change a thing, but the marriage, well, that is something different altogether. We've been blessed to have one that is strong and flexible, but I think too often not enough though is put into the what comes after the big princess day.